Life, like any design problem, works best when you collaborate with reality rather than impose a vision. Notice what’s working. Remove friction. Let the shape emerge.
The context is smarter than you. It holds more nuance and information than you can fit in your head.
Rather than starting with a vision of what I want to achieve and then trying to force that vision onto reality, I try to extract information from my context about what would fit.
Cycling through this feedback loop intensely for a decade produces a well-designed life.